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squabbles and arguments
Is your baby controlling you by throwing tantrums? Pick them up and gently tell them that this behavior is not allowed. Take them to their crib, play pen or other safe place and leave the room. Stay close by and as soon as they quiet down, go in and pick them up. Give loads of praise and love. They’ll probably try it again, but be the most persistent of the two of you and the tantrums will stop.
Sibling squabbles driving you nuts? Tell them you have confidence in their ability to work out a solution. Ask them what they think a reasonable and fair solution would be. They want you to solve it—that’s the easy way out for them. Don’t fall for it. But you don’t have to listen to it either. Send them outside or to their room to continue the argument—you don’t want to hear it. If it just isn’t working without your intervention, try this. Sit them on chairs facing each other close enough that their knees almost touch. Make them say “I love you” over and over to each other until they break up laughing. Tailor this to the age of the children. If they are old enough, have them tell each other their good qualities. “I love you because you are honest”. “I love you because you stick up for me with the kids at school”.
Fighting over who got the biggest piece? Institute a rule that whoever divides up the snack or pours the drinks to share—the other gets to choose.
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