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getting their attention
Have you ever heard yourself shouting, “Listen to me, I said Listen to me” or “Stop IT”. Well, it doesn’t work does it? When kids are arguing or fighting or otherwise engaged in high adrenaline emotions they can’t hear you -- especially if you shout. Tantrums are another good example of behavior that causes temporary deafness. There are a several ways to handle it depending on the situation.
Ignore Them ----
One is to ignore them and try to let them work out their problems between themselves. They are often trying to get your attention, i.e., tantrums. Send them to another room or go to another room yourself. Be sure to pay close attention and give them positive attention as soon as the tantrum or squabble is over.
Silence is Golden ----
Another is to stay calm yourself and speak very quietly. It seems impossible, but people often quiet down so they can hear what you have to say. Being soft spoken is a great asset. If you usually speak quietly you will really get everyone’s attention when you occasionally yell.
Repeat the Rhythm ----
A third is to have a clap routine that they have come to know they should repeat. Clap, pause, clap, pause, clap, clap, clap. Change it around periodically. Clap, clap, pause, clap, clap, pause, clap, pause, clap. Every time you clap a rhythm they will stop what they are doing and clap back at you. You may have to repeat it several times before they “get it”, but practice makes perfect. This is a great one to do anytime you want the children’s attention, not only when they are fighting.
The Splash that Shushes ----
You can also try this trick next time you can’t get their attention. Keep a spray bottle of water handy and squirt the culprits. It will shock them and change their focus to you and what you have to say.
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